A 75-year longitudinal study from Harvard recently reported that love and relationships are by far the most important factors to leading a happy and fulfilling life. The study’s lead researcher, Dr. George Vaillant, wrote that there are two essential ingredients for a good life: “One is love. The other is finding a way of coping with life that does not push love away.” So, why is it that we get in our own way when it comes to finding and maintaining love? On a romantic level, why are we our own worst enemy?

While most of us say we want love in our lives, so many of us find it difficult to tolerate meaningful romantic relationships that satisfy our needs and desires. Many people either struggle in selecting an appropriate, loving partner, or when they do enter a relationship, they feel compelled to push away or even punish the one they love. Fear of intimacy is an often subconscious reaction to closeness that frequently affects people’s personal relationships. Many people are afraid of being vulnerable or of losing their sense of identity by falling in love. These fears of physical and/or emotional intimacy tend to show up at various stages of a relationship when a person feels challenged. They also tend to arise in people’s closest and most meaningful connections.

In this Webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone explains both what causes this fear as well as how individuals can push past this fear and expand their capacity for love. By providing participants with a theoretical model that integrates psychodynamic, existential and family systems frameworks, Dr. Firestone assists individuals and clinicians working with clients to develop and maintain true intimacy in their relationships. She introduces interventions that can lead to enhanced communication and more personal relating between couples, while also creating a heightened sense of individuality in each partner.

Learning Objectives:
  1. Apply techniques from Voice Therapy to help challenge clients’ negative thoughts toward themselves and their partners.
  2. Explain how early childhood traumas affect an individual’s ability to maintain intimacy.
  3. Describe how the Fantasy Bond can interfere with couple relationships.

Presenter: Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.
90 Minutes

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Once payment is received, you will be e-mailed a full video recording of this Webinar along with all presentation materials.

Optional CEs (3) may be purchased through R. Cassidy Seminars for $15. A link to purchase CE credits will be included in the email containing all your Webinar resources. More Info Here


About Lisa Firestone

Dr. Lisa Firestone Phd, Lisa Firestone, Psychalive, The Glendon AssociationDr. Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association and a Senior Editor at PsychAlive. An accomplished and much requested lecturer, Dr. Firestone speaks at national and international conferences in the areas of couple relations, parenting, and suicide and violence prevention. Dr. Firestone has published numerous professional articles, and most recently was the co-author of The Self Under Siege: A Therapeutic Model for Differentiation (Routledge, 2013), Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships (APA Books, 2006), Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice (New Harbinger, 2002), and Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: The Wisdom of Psychotherapy (APA Books, 2003).


Continuing Education Information:

This event is co-sponsored by R. Cassidy Seminars.  A link to purchase CE credits will be provided to all Webinar registrants.

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Participants must have paid tuition fee, signed in, attended the entire seminar, completed any accompanying reading assignment, completed an evaluation, and signed out in order to receive a certificate. Failure to sign in or out will result in forfeiture of credit for the entire course. No exceptions will be made. Partial credit is not available.


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