Learn common barriers that get in the way of lasting love and effective strategies to achieve closeness.

Most people believe they want love in their life, but most also face challenges that lead them to stop engaging in loving actions. The feelings between couples diminish when they stop treating each other as separate people, with the respect, attraction, passion and affection that make up what we call romantic love. Often, by the time couples realize there’s a problem or seek help in therapy, they’ve become entangled in destructive patterns that have disconnected them from their loving feelings and damaged the relationship.

In order to keep their warm, attracted feelings alive, people must remember to treat love as a verb. It is a way of being more so than a state of being. Research shows that engaging in kind, loving actions actually makes us feel more in love. In this 90-minute Webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone will explore what it really means to be in love. Drawing on the latest research and her clinical experience, she will explain how people can be more loving in their actions and maintain their loving feelings over time.

Dr. Firestone will draw on Dr. Robert Firestone’s concepts’ “fear of intimacy” and the “fantasy bond” as well as findings from attachment theory and Emotion-Focused Therapy to describe common patterns that create distance and proven strategies to achieve more closeness. Individuals, couples, and therapists working with clients will benefit by learning about how negative dynamics operate, how they can be avoided, and how they can be replaced with more vulnerable, open, loving actions and communication that allow a person to have more love in their life.

Learning Objectives:

  1. Explain how a person’s core defenses can sabotage romantic closeness
  2. Summarize effective methods for helping people to express core wants and needs
  3. Describe how the Fantasy Bond can diminish real loving feelings and behaviors.


Presenter: Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.

90 Minutes

Price: $15 (CE’s not included)

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Ordering Information:

Once payment is received, you will be e-mailed a full video recording of this Webinar along with all presentation materials.

Optional CEs (1.5) may be purchased through R. Cassidy Seminars for $10. A link to purchase CE credits will be included in the email containing all your Webinar resources. More Info Here



About Lisa Firestone

Dr. Lisa Firestone Phd, Lisa Firestone, Psychalive, The Glendon AssociationDr. Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association and a Senior Editor at PsychAlive. An accomplished and much requested lecturer, Dr. Firestone speaks at national and international conferences in the areas of couple relations, parenting, and suicide and violence prevention. Dr. Firestone has published numerous professional articles, and most recently was the co-author of The Self Under Siege: A Therapeutic Model for Differentiation (Routledge, 2013), Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships (APA Books, 2006), Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice (New Harbinger, 2002), and Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: The Wisdom of Psychotherapy (APA Books, 2003).



Continuing Education Information:

This event is co-sponsored by R. Cassidy Seminars.  A link to purchase CE credits will be provided to all Webinar registrants.

Satisfactory Completion

Participants must have paid tuition fee, signed in, attended the entire seminar, completed any accompanying reading assignment, completed an evaluation, and signed out in order to receive a certificate. Failure to sign in or out will result in forfeiture of credit for the entire course. No exceptions will be made. Partial credit is not available.


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