There is always a lot going on between two people in a relationship. But very often, much of what goes wrong in a relationship has to do with what’s going on in our own minds. Most of us have a constant dialogue running in our heads, analyzing our relationship and informing us on how to behave. Instead of simply acting based on how we feel, we are advised by our “critical inner voice”: “Don’t be a fool.” “Don’t let her know how much you like her.” “Don’t tell him what you’re really thinking.” Although these thoughts may seem self-protective, they’re actually self-sabotaging.